Ever Found Yourself At Your Own “Pity Party For 1″?

Ok firstly I want to put it out there that… I have FAILED so many times in my online business life that it’s ridiculous.  I mean, I have run out of fingers and toes to even count the amount of failures I have experienced. The amount of “Pity Parties” I have thrown in my own honour is truly amazing, and when I look back on them all, it’s really quite comical.

I remember waaaayyyy back when I was first getting started in online business, it was all so intimidating. I remember it not taking long to find out who the “big hitters” were in the online world when it came to marketing and breakthrough products. How they made you feel like you were really part of their family in the way they market to you. And lets face it, that is just one of the reasons they are kicking ass online, because they are phenomenal at making you feel like you truly matter to them! Master Marketers! And well done to them, the sooner you can learn how to do that, make people feel like they are truly part of a “movement” or your “online family”, coupled with some of your own kick ass products, the quicker you will find success online.

It took me sooooo long to realise this, I felt so intimidated for so long. What made things even worse was I held these people on such a pedestal that I couldn’t see past their success to see my own.  And I was always comparing myself and my failures to them. Like these people had NEVER failed in their own business lives. I was not taking a breath to celebrate the small wins I was having in my own business.

Early on, failing seemed to be like second nature, but even worse the celebratory Pity Party, I was always throwing in my own honour, just prolonged the inaction I was taking in my own business. At one stage, I had surpassed the party and was on Pity Holiday. For about a week I couldn’t get past my latest and greatest failure, I couldn’t get out of my own way and get over myself and realise what all these failures were adding up to.  It wasn’t until I started networking more with people online that I started to really realise just how much I had grown and what I had learned from all my failures. I started to realise that all these failures just led me closer and closer to my own success, and the amount of experience or knowledge that I had taken away from these failures was purely priceless.

I couldn’t have paid enough to do a course that taught me as much as my own failings have. It was then that I started to realise that failing was a pretty good thing, to say the least! It is one of the best positive experiences you could ask for out of your own business. Amongst a lot of other things it has taught me that I am taking action, because if I wasn’t taken action towards my goals then there was no way I was firstly going to experience failure and secondly be able to grow and expand myself and my business as a result of these failures. I can guarantee that all those “big hitters” I was referring to earlier have failed dozens of times in their business but the difference between those guys and everyone else is – they picked themselves up, dusted themselves off and moved forward in action time and time again. To the point where it is not seen as failure anymore but just simply you have discovered the way NOT to do something!!

So stop throwing anymore Pity Parties for yourself from here on in, and start celebrating the fact that you have just discovered how not to do something and move on from it by putting your new idea into action!

If you aren’t failing… you aren’t taking enough action!!

Cheers